Thursday, February 16, 2006

Sugar and spice...

These past three days I have been a complete sugar fiend. Wham bars (still 10p!), strawberry chewits (make me hyper), drumsticks, jaffa cakes, cookies... oh dear. I LOVE eating them, but the come down from the sugar high isn't good. God job I don't ever do drugs, I'd be rubbish!

My friend Annabel should write a book on relationship counselling, or at least helping people understand what might be going on in the heads of other people when it comes to things like that. She is GOOD. I think she should start a blog, like an agongy aunt type thing. Ooh, that's a great idea (only just had it, see)... watch this space.

Here is some of her advice I want to remember so I can be more empathetic towards some of my friends: "I think if you get to the stage in a relationship where you realise that you are bumbling along, but it isn't enough, then it is time to call it quits. Takes a lot to get over that though, I would think. It is sadder than a forced breakup. Makes you feel much more empty inside. A forced breakup makes you feel angry and upset, but you fight back from it. A natural breakup makes you more reflective, thinking about investing in someone, thinking it is right and in the end it isn't. Harder to work out and justify and get over and build up your strength again. Makes you feel so sad about relationships. Makes it hard to trust yourself or anyone else. Bit of 'what's the point?'. Perhaps you can go with the flow with someone new for a while but then you get the overwhelming 'stop' feeling. Doesn't mean that you can't have fun and won't again - just takes a bit of time."

Aaah, time...


Blogger lurchyboy said...

very true

nice pic!

16/2/06 2:23 pm  
Blogger Tori said...

i've never been there so sometimes find it hard to identify.

16/2/06 3:26 pm  
Blogger lurchyboy said...

But didn't you take the photo?

Oh! You mean about relationships! It's difficult either way if you ask me. It's just as hard to accept the end of a relationship when you want it to carry on and the other person doesn't. Makes you all frustrated. :(

Relationships are just difficult full-stop! That's also what's great about them! :)

16/2/06 4:01 pm  
Blogger Tori said...

ha ha! but how about if you want it to end and the other person doesn't? i just think that should be easier, but i guess it's not!

and actually, no, didn't take the photo - the guy i like did! i 'edited' it in photoshop though. it's at the top of mount kilimanjaro. cool eh?

16/2/06 4:13 pm  
Blogger lurchyboy said...

Hmm, I suppose it is easier like that. You start to break the attachment before you make the actual decision so you've had time to get used to it.

How's it going with guy-you-like?

16/2/06 4:29 pm  
Blogger Tori said...

'just friends'. which is better than nothing. at least he wants to spend Some time with me!

16/2/06 4:48 pm  
Blogger lurchyboy said...

Aah, sounds a bit frustrating too. Maybe it's not better than nothing? A difficult one.

Oh, and talking of sugar addiction, I stuffed my face with chocolate raisins the other week. It was scary! I literally felt sick but I just couldn't stop until I had finished the whole bag.

17/2/06 12:35 pm  
Blogger Tori said...

i LOVE chocolate raisins!

yeh, i know, i can't decide if it's better than nothing. i think it is. at the moment. am giving it a bit more time...

17/2/06 2:30 pm  
Blogger lurchyboy said...

Hmm, it might end up hurting more in the long run. Or maybe not. Good luck with that one anyway.

Yeah, chocolate raisins are the one aren't they?! I've recently gone back to being veggie from being vegan cause I missed milk chocolate too much. So now milk chocolate just feels like the forbidden fruit or something! I have to stuff it down before anyone sees me!

17/2/06 3:05 pm  
Blogger Jessica said...

Hey, I hopped over here from Craig's blog. As I was scrolling through your entries I landed precisely on the relationship bit. I'm actually in the middle of one of those "mutual" break-ups, and I'm feeling precisely the way your friend described. As I move out of our shared apartment, I'm feeling like I'm in this weird limbo between being single and being attached. I was starting to think something was wrong with me, but reading that little blurb was reassuring. And oddly timely.

So... thanks!

And hi!

13/4/06 2:08 pm  

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