Tuesday, April 21, 2009

High Maintenance vs. Low Maintence

Apparently I need to be more high maintenance. Or so my boyfriend says. I just did an online survey that said I was definitely low maintenance. I thought that was a good thing, but obviously not! Here's what it said:

You Are Low Maintenance: Otherwise known as "too good to be true". You're one laid back chica - and men love that! Just remember that no good guy likes a doormat. So if you find your self going along to get along... Stop yourself and put up a little bit of a fight.

So basically he's saying I'm a doormat. Unfortunately I can see what he means. I'm really laid back and easy going. I wouldn't want someone to always agree with me, I'd want someone with all their own opinions and their own interests and someone you could have some good banter with. I don't think I flirt enough with him - y'know, be a bit cheeky, etc.

But how do I be more high maintenance without turning into a pain in the ass? According to someone on Yahoo! Answers 'high maintenance' is "usually someone you have to 'take care of' or 'needs a lot of attention' or 'costs a lot of money' or 'spends a lot of money on herself' or 'someone who is insecure and/or jealous', also, someone who is NEVER satisfied!". High maintenance requires a lot of time, effort and money. Well, if he wants to spend more money on me then cool. I think he might just want me to be more assertive. Which normally isn't a problem I have, but if I'm not bothered about something I won't pretend I am. Maybe that's it?

Someone else on Yahoo! Answers said: "for me "high maintenance" means that the other person is very demanding emotionally...like she is needy and needs things like attention, assurances she is desirable, you know, like come over and spend time with me but don't really expect me to do anything for you, but rather you must do everything for me...take me out to dinner, spend money on me, tell me i'm beautiful, buy me gifts, show me off, and don't expect anything in return..."

Here's an interesting article about it too.

I wonder if he really means it. I'll check before I start being all super-demanding. I'm sure I've got it in me...